I like that nightclub analogy a lot! I had a very similar realization lately that helped me understand why I loathe using FB so much: I realized it reminds me of those BIG parties, where you get excited to catch up with people you rarely see, but you never get time to really talk in-depth about anything because there are so many people around, someone else is always coming up and saying "Hi it's been so long how are you!" It's extraversion on the internets. Lots of small talk kinds of updates, little deep conversation, or opportunity for it. And uh, I am deeply introverted. I loathe small talk AND crowds like that, I don't have the time or energy to check in to extravert central to make sure I am current with the cute things my high school friends' toddlers did.
I'm sad that so many people have gone to that sort of blogging, where it's like, the G- or maybe PG-rated version of your life: it's the life commentary you don't mind being read by your closest friends AND your mom AND your aunt AND that person from that one volunteer organization.
It's nice to have some level of contact with old high school friends, and it has been very valuable to me in that way (I found my current apartment thanks to a post on FB), but it all seems too public and fast moving to be about deep relationships. It's an easy way to maintain superficial contact with people, and I'm not about to ditch it entirely (I do have 1 or 2 friends I -do- have some meaningful interaction with on FB, too.)
The whole interface is -designed- to discourage lengthy, substantial discussion, but email conversations, or thoughtful blogging any more seem to be reserved for only intimate relationships, or really wordy bastards.
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Date: 2013-09-13 04:09 pm (UTC)I'm sad that so many people have gone to that sort of blogging, where it's like, the G- or maybe PG-rated version of your life: it's the life commentary you don't mind being read by your closest friends AND your mom AND your aunt AND that person from that one volunteer organization.
It's nice to have some level of contact with old high school friends, and it has been very valuable to me in that way (I found my current apartment thanks to a post on FB), but it all seems too public and fast moving to be about deep relationships. It's an easy way to maintain superficial contact with people, and I'm not about to ditch it entirely (I do have 1 or 2 friends I -do- have some meaningful interaction with on FB, too.)
The whole interface is -designed- to discourage lengthy, substantial discussion, but email conversations, or thoughtful blogging any more seem to be reserved for only intimate relationships, or really wordy bastards.